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Moving Through Grief in Observance

Grief. The word itself just feels heavy and bleak. So, it was no surprise to me when I looked up the definition that its root originates from the Latin word “gravare,” meaning “burden,” which is a derivative of “gravis,” meaning “heavy.” Think of gravity. It keeps us bound to the Earth. It weighs us down. So does grief.

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross defined five stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. While one might move through the stages in random order and even revisit levels, the goal is Acceptance. One thing to point out is that acceptance does not necessarily mean that you are okay with the loss; it means that you recognize the new reality of living in this world without that person or thing you have lost.

At first glance, one might think that grief in a higher state of consciousness is unnecessary. After all, what is there to grieve? Aren’t we all Spirit choosing to have a human/physical experience here on Earth? Energy is neither created or destroyed and the consciousness of a person does not die upon physical death! Further, if one is on the path of spiritual enlightenment, being in a state of grief is a lower energy vibration! Shouldn’t we avoid that? In “Power vs Force,” David R. Hawkins establishes a hierarchy of levels of human consciousness, with Enlightenment the goal. Grief falls below Fear! Think about that. Grief falls below the level that most humans are operating from. Therefore, I have been struggling with how to deal with the very human feelings brought forward through grief, all of which fall in the lower energy vibrations.

Grief has many levels and many faces, and how a person deals with grief is very personal. In the past six months, I have suffered three different losses—my job, my mother, and my beloved cat, Lucas. And each of these losses has produced very different grief responses. We can even talk about the Circle of Life, and how loss is necessary. We can say that my mother is in a better place, and that my cat is no longer suffering. But this hurts like hell. It is clear to me that there are no coincidences and that absolutely everything happens in the way it is supposed to (even if it does not seem that way at first).

There has been the comment that I seem to be grieving more for my cat than I did for my mother. And this brings to me to the other part of grief—judgment. No one really knows the depths of another person’s grief. You cannot always tell from the number of tears shed in public.

When I lost my job, I was sitting in the Anger phase for a few months and then my mother suddenly died. Her death was a shock, but I also knew this was what she wanted. I felt a mixture of sadness and relief, for her and for me. But I kept thinking of the “What Ifs” and “If Onlys”; things could have been, should have been, better. A few days after her burial, I found out that my cat Lucas was suffering from tongue cancer. That brave kitty went through two months of vet visits, force feedings, appetite stimulants, antibiotics, steroids, and pain medications until I finally understood that he was ready to go. That brought me to my knees. You see, Lucas has always been a constant and unending source of pure unconditional love for me.  But I realize Lucas gave me another gift upon dying; his death has forced me to deal with the long-buried sorrow related to my mother. I do not grieve that she has left this earthly plane. My grief is sourced at a primal level, the sorrow of a little girl that will never have the nurturing, loving mother she always wanted. I got the angry, sarcastic, “take no prisoners” warrior mother. But this is where I learned to be strong and stand up for myself.  I am proud of the gifts that she gave to me, even if the delivery was painful. Losing Lucas opened the gates to reach that deeply buried pain. And while it may be selfish to focus on my grief, I think that is exactly what is required unless I want to be stuck at this level.

I conclude that grief and all the associated emotions, whether they be lower energy vibrations, must be acknowledged and felt in order to move forward. For every “dark night of the soul” that I have lived has resulted in a gift. I remind myself of this daily. There is a light around the corner.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Joy Leffingwell
Trinity Energy Progression Practitioner/Facilitator

What are your reflectors?

Do you hold fear, insecurity, the feeling of not being good enough in you?

Find the reflectors that are holding you back, that are not working for you and work through them. Ask yourself, what reflectors am I wearing? What is reflecting back to me?

If you are angry or sad about something, or have negative emotions toward someone, you are in a low energy pattern. It will continue until you work through it and change it. Try to look at your issues and relationships as reflectors you are wearing. What does it reflect to you? What shows up in your life that annoys you? You are holding an aspect in some shape or form of the issue or person you judge and feel angry or sad about. Or maybe it’s a childhood issue or something that’s emerging from a past life.

Find out what it is for you. You might have to do some digging work and find out the beliefs that are holding you back. Replace your anger with kindness and love; make peace with the issue or the person. Raise your vibration, work through the issue, and send love and forgiveness and then let it go. Thank the person for the great gift they have been for you. The people who challenge you the most are your best teachers, as hard as it seems at the time. If someone is pushing your buttons, it shows there is struggle or drama, find it and clear that reflection you are holding. If the vibration is dense, work through it until it feels lighter.

We are receivers and transmitters. We feel drawn to certain people, we enjoy their company from the first moment we meet them; others you want to run from when you see them. Have you ever noticed how you feel when you walk into Wal-Mart or any other crowded; or low vibration place or store? Simply turn up your light and EMANATE — be the lighthouse, not the sponge, and others around you will do the same! We attract what we reflect. It’s all light and vibration. Find the reflector when it shows up and clear it, if you are holding it. You can’t change others, but you can clear the issue through healing yourself. Don’t exhaust yourself by trying to change other people. But you can change your experience of life if you clear your own energy. Some of us have a subconscious need for struggle. Release the need for struggle based on what your reflectors are. Clear your reflectors energetically, clear the heavy energy within and around you.

Sometimes you have to be still and go within to find out what the pattern is. Or, if you don’t find it, sometimes with the help of a Practitioner you’ll be able to locate the issue and work on it together in releasing it. Once you find it, dissolve, resolve, release and clear it, and make changes — go inside and turn up the light and clear it once and for all.

Allow yourself to look at the emotions and work through them. Raise your consciousness and send “your teachers” love anyways’; it allows you to move on, and out of the negative vibrations.

Think about when relationships end, there is usually a missing link. That can be romantically, friendships, or business relations, in general.

If there is no mutual love, respect, trust, or commitment from both sides there can be no real future in a relationship. Something will always be missing. If one of the links is missing, then it’s like a chain reaction. If one partner decides not to respect the other one, where is the commitment and love in the relationship? Or if the commitment from one partner is gone, where is the mutual love and respect? When boundaries are broken, it’s hard to move forward in a relationship. There needs to be genuine love and safety in a relationship. It’s a two-way street.

It does not mean you don’t love the other person in some shape or form anymore. If you learned your lesson and you are done with your soul contract, don’t feel bad if you walk away in dignity and let the other person live their life. Forgive yourself, and forgive the other person. It is okay to forgive and be forgiven and it’s okay to forgive yourself. It might take a while to get there. Don’t beat yourself up over what could have or should have been. Make an internal inventory, do your self-work, go within yourself, and see if you can live with broken trust or a broken commitment. For some people it might be possible to move forward in a relationship after one of the chains have been broken, that means that the soul contract is not done yet, or the lesson not learned yet. Forgive yourself anyways. Whatever you do, it’s okay! When the other person moves on and is not committed to you and no longer respects, trusts,or loves you anymore, it was about themselves and their insecurities, and had nothing to do with you. This is hard to accept sometimes; I know out of experience.

What I can tell you helped me in the past, is: Go within, feel the pain, work through it for as long as it may take you and then let the emotion go. Let your inner pilot light guide you in making the right decisions to move forward. Trinity Energy Progression™ has helped me work through a lot of pain and let go of a lot of reflectors.

Your inner voice always knows; you just have to be quiet enough to listen to it. With all the turmoil and other’s opinions around us, we don’t stop and trust our own Divine Light sometimes. Only you can live your life and decide what is best for you and the lessons you have come here to fulfill and learn; nobody else can do that for you. See past relationships, as painful as the end might have been, as the gift they really have been to you. See the lesson you learned from it and thank the Universe for it and move on without regret.

Reflectors_blog_022115I learned a lot from my pets, especially my dog, about unconditional love and trust. Animals trust they will be fed and taken care of. They don’t worry about tomorrow. They live in the moment. They are happy to see you, even if they get the same food every day, and they never complain. They are grateful and they love you unconditionally anyway – even when you had a hard day, even if you feel insecure, not good enough, or just sad. They wag their tail when you come home. If it’s just been an hour or a day, they wait patiently by the door to greet you. They are committed to their family. We can learn a lot from our pets. Go with the flow, do what makes you happy.

Choose work that makes you happy, find your passion! Choose your partner wisely. Does he or she make your life even happier? If they walk in the door, do you get as excited to see them, as your dog is when you come home? Just think about it for a moment and let it sink in. If the answer is yes, then you are good; otherwise work on the issue. Or, just get a dog or cat, they love you unconditionally just the way you are! ? Bring balance in your life and remember the Divine Being you truly are. You deserve life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

Claudia Stevens

 

 

 

 

 

Let your light shine through in all that you do,

Claudia Stevens
Facilitator, Trinity Energy Progression