Posted by: Angela Coulter | on April 8, 2020
As I’m writing this, the world finds itself in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic. It is easy to get overwhelmed with the volume of information coming at you from all sides: the news, leaders of all kinds from every country affected, social media, and of course, friends and family. And here in the USA, we are being placed under stay-at-home orders. It’s no wonder so many people are gripped with fear and despair. Personally, I’ve gone through lots of varied emotions. Not true fear – mine is more of a cautiousness and a wait and see feeling – but I have had many days where I was really fed up with it all and some where I was feeling down. At other times, I’ve had a lot to be thankful for and even to laugh about. I want you to know it is okay to feel that way. It is okay to feel however you feel and to feel different things hour by hour, minute by minute even, especially in extraordinary times like these.
Now to shift gears a little bit. In the northern hemisphere, where I live, it is springtime. It seems hard to believe that the natural world is carrying on while we humans are hunkering down, but it is. And I, for one, am thrilled. I love seeing nature reawaken! I rejoiced when I saw my first native bees of the year using my bee house. Plants that I thought for sure hadn’t survived the winter began poking their heads out of the ground again, and I even had one of the eastern black swallowtail butterflies that overwintered with me emerge and fly off in the nice warm weather. Spring is the season of renewal, and boy we could sure use a renewal right about now!
With that in mind, I would encourage you to spend as much time as you can outdoors, or if you can’t be outdoors (we are in the midst of what we locals refer to as “the pollening” in my area where even a few minutes outside results in you being covered from head to toe with a yellow-green pollen) try to bring the outdoors in with flowers or plants. Even watching television shows about nature can help lift your spirits. Nature gives the gift of allowing you to just “be”. You don’t have to impress it or put on a happy face or worry about what you say to it or what tone of voice you use. You get to be fully you and nature accepts you as you are. Even better yet, as you become still and begin to acclimate to your outdoor surroundings, nature lets you in on its secrets. You begin to notice things you hadn’t seen before like new plant shoots or leaves that have suddenly appeared that weren’t there the day before. I’ve already been lucky this year to also see rabbits and deer that know I’m around but don’t mind my being present.
I tend to dislike writing in a journal, but I don’t mind posting on social media as much, so for me, sharing the new things I discover each day in a short post (or in multiple posts if it has been a really good nature day), is a good way to commemorate what I’ve experienced and allows me to share my findings, thoughts, and feelings with others. Many people remark on my posts directly or when I see them in person, and tell me how much they enjoyed seeing and learning about my various topics. The butterflies that I raise and release are especially popular topics. So if you feel inclined, share some of the joy you find outdoors with others and let’s see if collectively we can bring happiness to large numbers of people. Feel free to start right now by leaving a message in the comments as to your favorite nature moments. I look forward to reading them!
Posted by: Angela Coulter | on December 4, 2019
As the days grow colder (at least we are where I am, here in the United States) and we’re now smack in the middle of the end-of-year holiday season, it is important to take a step back from the hustle and bustle and make time to take care of yourself. I know, I know, you have shopping to do, presents to wrap, and holiday parties to attend. And do I think that tree is going to decorate itself? How in the world, when you already feel as though you’re running behind, and like everything could fall apart if you don’t go even faster, are you going to stop and carve out some “me time”? I understand, believe me, I do. And that is precisely why you need to do it.
I think the problem comes in our perception of self care. Typical images conjure up bubble baths, or reading a book while wrapped up in a cozy blanket by the fire. Don’t get me wrong; these are great ways to exercise self care and are very relaxing too. However, self care doesn’t need to be the stereotypical perception of relaxing or pampering to count as self care. I’d encourage you to look deeper and discover what makes you smile, warms your heart, and feeds your soul.
The things you choose for your own self care can be as small as making yourself a cup of tea that you enjoy. Or it can be something that you expect others would not think of as self care – like finally cleaning out and organizing the junk drawer – but that gives you such a sense of well-being and accomplishment that it makes you do a happy dance inside. I won’t judge you for it! In fact, I would be happy that you added to your joy and sense of self. For that is what self care is really all about: nourishing yourself in all ways, big and small.
In a season that is all about taking care of and doing things for others, it might be difficult to get in touch with what would nurture your own soul. To help get you started, I’ve listed some suggestions below. I suspect that once you start thinking about it, you will come up with many more ways to nourish yourself that feel right to you. Go for it! You are worth it!
Self Care Suggestions
- Drink a cup of tea, or other warm beverage you enjoy
- Read a book
- Walk through nature
- Feed the birds
- Do a task you’ve been putting off
- Try a new lotion or perfume
- Eat a crisp apple
- Relax by the fireplace
- Get a pedicure or massage
- Arrange flowers for your home
- Create! Paint, sew, sculpt, knit, solder metal, papier-mâché, string beads, etc.
- Draw in a coloring book
- Bake cookies
- Take a class on something you’ve wanted to learn
- Watch the sunrise or sunset
- Listen to yourself and give yourself permission to explore what makes you happy and contented
Posted by: Angela Coulter | on August 21, 2019
This week, my family and I are moving to a new house. I’m VERY excited; LOVE the new house, and am HUGELY grateful for how this all came together!
Our house of 22 years is being torn down by the DOT to put a road through it.
Now, don’t judge the DOT… that’s what so many jump to right away. In all reality, the road they’re expanding to meet the road they’re putting in is VERY overdue; the traffic down that currently 2-lane road is a nightmare nightly, because it’s become a bottleneck in this rapidly growing area. In fact, when we bought our house 22 years ago, they were talking about this highway and road expansion then; it’s just been put on the table over and over… while we were able to play out a wonderful 22 years. We knew it was definitely coming three years ago, when they finally finished and began to implement the plan.
Our children are young adults now; my youngest is 21 and in her last year of college. So, actually… the timing was quite perfect, as my – our – needs and wants have changed dramatically.
I AM happily excited about it all! Quite honestly, my husband and I know we manifested this whole thing perfectly and with complete consciousness… but that’s a powerful blog for another day (and I WILL share THAT story)! It’s exciting to shed the past in its completion!
I know that I’m on the edge of the next huge level of transformation, and this is simply a physical reflection of that. I teach others about letting go, about opening ourselves to what’s next… and what’s now. Allowing. Though in many ways I’ve felt like I’ve been in stasis for the last three years, I’ve been hugely grateful for the time to mourn the “death” of our house, and in essence the “death” of a very, very significant part of my life. Since the beginning of this year, it’s been a (breathless) and very welcome shift into the engagement of change.
The ego is still letting go of all I’ve built on within my experience, my identity, while this has been my domicile. I know that’s OK; I generally nourish and allow it, with love.
And I focus on gently, lovingly, and freely LETTING GO.
However, with that creation, there are some bumps in the road, as the ego tries to fight what it has held onto for so long. What I’ve been observing is the amazing amount of layers that were hidden under the surface of this connection.
Our home is the physical reflection of our personal and collective Divine embodiment. Flow issues? Plumbing comes up. Discomfort with yourself, as you are? Heating or air condition issues… I could go on.
And yet, it also reflects the love and energy of who we are.
The closer and closer this move has come to us, the more I have focused on gratitude for this house; for this haven of support and love for so many years of my life. So many who have come to this home have commented on how nourishing it is, how much love is there, how they just love being there. I have connected with the consciousness of the house seamlessly many, many times in gratitude, and all I feel is gratitude back.
I offered to take its consciousness with us, since it will no longer be embodied through the physicality of the house… and with love, it told me that it was ready to move on, with so much gratitude for all that we have shared. It has also provided me with a new sense of gratitude for my Self, for what I have chosen to embody, in a whole new level!
For the past week or so, I’ve been hearing its “voice” in my consciousness: “Time to go.” I realize it means both for me/us and for it.
This past weekend, I was mowing the lawn on my riding mower, doing what I’ve done a countless number of times, and I realized this was the last time I would be doing this at this house. As I rode along, with the sweet scents of familiarity surrounding me, an infinite number of flashes of memory began. All the thoughts, the meditations, the events that I reflected upon while mowing over the years – so many moments of uncertainty, discomfort, irritation, anger at something in my reality, as much as joy and excitement – that were worked out and flowed through doing this very basic task, and would ultimately calm me while bringing about the feeling of nourishment and support.
Along these flashes came tears; a final tidal wave of sadness, mourning… and a little fear of the unknown…. as excited as I am about it.
Yet, energetically reaching into the earth beneath me, I felt that nourishment and connection… I felt it all as me… and again, I understood, “Time to go.”
Time to let go of who, what, and where I’ve been, to become what I am to be, now.
My heart exploded with gratitude in the fullness of love that has been there, that is to be, and in recognizing that it’s time to step into the wholeness of me in a whole new way without the need of this reflection back to me anymore.
Originator, Trinity Energy Progression
Posted by: Angela Coulter | on June 24, 2019
I’m ready to start living life to the fullest. This line seems so cliché as it seems to be the latest buzz concept. Why might this matter? Sometimes I can be a bit of an “evolution” snob. ROTFL; ultimately, SO WHAT if anyone or everyone else is focusing on this? It’s MY priority.
To me, “living life to the fullest” has to be based on an internal shift of belief as well as actions. That’s where this comes in.
Recently I was realizing that I really want to increase my water intake and keep that consistent, day-to-day. Years ago, I heard that it’s important to drink half of your body weight in ounces in water; and to match an additional 2 ounces of water for each ounce of caffeine consumed. Although I share this concept regularly, I’ve yet to achieve it myself.
THEN, I recently heard a twist on this which was paradigm-shifting …. What I heard is that the break-even point of water consumption is the half your body weight in ounces; and that if you really want to fuel your body properly, you’d up that by 20-30%. Think about this …. the MINIMUM amount of water to consume is half your body weight in ounces; NOT that this is the ideal goal. That’s another 20-30 PERCENT.
This was one of those life-changing moments …. A “kerplunk” moment …. All of the things I suggest to people, I share about, I coach people to embrace and that I am not living myself …. came front and center for me.
Combined with the regular discussions I have with close friends on evolving including fun concepts such as “being versus doing,” “living who we are,” “living from the present” …. I shifted to ….
IT IS TIME to start putting into action those day-to-day activities which support what I believe in, and support my emerging self … who I truly am versus where I’ve been living from.
Concurrent taking action is continuing to do the inner work which clears the way to make the action easier to integrate into my day-to-day life. Want to know more about the inner work, and where many find themselves right now? If so, check out Angela Coulter’s recent discussion around this via her “Living the Shift” livestream/podcast.
I started thinking of the different elements I’ve been exploring, am interested in making part of my regular “don’t need to think about it” activities ….. I realized the perfect acronym for me is “Dragonfly” as that’s a personal totem for me. I have dragonflies in various forms all over my home, yard, vehicle, clothes. Dragonflies represent transformation, change, lightness, flexibility, self-awareness, power. Just recently, I was traveling and came across dozens and dozens of Dragonflies in various fields. I took this as a very profound sign and message. I loved seeing how integrated they are into the environment which reminded me of how I’d like self-care activities to be in my life. You can see a video of the lovelies here: Being Your Emerging Self ~ Dragonflies.
Here’s what I identified as the actions of being I am now integrating into my daily life to reflect and support me:
D = Direct your thoughts, starting with when you wake up … set your intention for the day
R = Renew yourself through meditation, quiet time, etc.
A = Ask for guidance ~ such as “Show me the way” (credit to Nommy)
G = Gratitude ~ express gratitude in every moment, every thing
O = Oxygenate ~ I use a BEMER, breathe deep, yoga; however you do it, it works
N = Now ~ live from the present now, in each situation
F = Fuel yourself through a minimum of half your body weight in ounces of water plus 20-30%
L = Listen to connect ~ Look around you to observe ~ Live from Love
Y = You ~ Make yourself a priority as a reflection of your commitment to you
“With every act of self-care your authentic self gets stronger, and the critical, fearful mind gets weaker. Every act of self-care is a powerful declaration: I am on my side, I am on my side, each day I am more and more on my own side.”
~ Susan Weiss Berry
This is how I’m choosing to support my emerging self. What supports your emerging self?
I invite you to join me and others in allowing and supporting your emerging self so that you too can choose to live your life from being your emerging self.
With curiosity and gratitude,
Posted by: Angela Coulter | on June 4, 2019
I’ve been doing a lot of gardening lately. Spring has sprung as the saying goes, and I’ve been caught up in the renewal of life. It’s glorious to see all the plants, animals, and insects reviving and going about the business of creating anew. Moreover, gardening is a form of meditation for me. It allows me to be quiet and hear my thoughts and to tap into the energy of the universe.
Most recently I’ve attempted to tackle my collection of outdoor pots and planters. It has taken me almost a year of being in my new residence to gain order, but I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve known that I wanted to change the way things looked for a long time now. When I moved, I basically set the plants and planters down in my backyard simply to have somewhere to put them until I had time to get back around to them. Of course life, as it often does, had other plans for me and aside from watering the plants to keep them alive, I didn’t spend much time figuring out what to do with them. This spring, all of that changed. Suddenly I had inspiration (remember, that is my word for 2019!) and I could see bits and pieces of how things could look and what I needed to change. I was thinking outside the box and I was filled with ideas for redesigning and repurposing old items to fit my new vision. The results have been wonderful! I’ve installed several new planters and some more permanent features such as bricks and pavers, and I’m thrilled with how they look. Not only do they fill me with joy when I look at them, but I also enjoyed reconnecting with the Earth by getting my hands in the dirt and creating these plant combinations.
My mother was visiting prior to my creative steak and commented on how many plants I had in and around my area (mainly scattered on my back deck). I responded that I had a plan and not to worry about it. Let’s just say she seemed skeptical. However, after two days of hard work, the results speak for themselves. There is still more to go, but I can see the next steps now. As I texted photos of all I had done over the weekend to my mother, I also sent a text saying “I keep telling you I have a vision. It sometimes just takes a while to get it all worked out.” It reminded me that the Universe works this way as well. There is always a master plan waiting to unfold! We don’t necessarily see where things are headed, and we frequently get impatient waiting for events to occur, but when the time is right it all comes together and the plan is revealed. We may only be given a small part of the plan, but that part feels infinitely right and timely. We also frequently know the next steps to take even if we are unsure where those steps will ultimately lead. It’s a matter of trust and faith to follow them, but when we do the reward is great.
As pleased as I was to create a beautiful and peaceful outdoor space for myself, I’m even more grateful for the reminder from the Universe about divine timing. Hopefully my experience will resonate with you and help to serve as a reminder for you as well. In the interim, may you enjoy your springtime as much as I have, and may it bring you much happiness!