Tag: unconditional love
The Greatest Love of All
We were joined at the hip, on identical paths and inseparable. 33 years of marriage and we thought NOTHING would ever separate us. We’d been through it all: heartache, triumph, birth, pain, celebration, death, achievement. Victory after victory, loss after loss. Events that would challenge our commitment to each other. We grew closer with each one. How does a couple make it through all of that and not split up? Because of their undying love for each another. Each challenge made us stronger and tighter. We prided ourselves on being unshakable, unstoppable. NOTHING would EVER pull us apart.
We were an unlikely pair. One day I fell for him and my life would never be the same. We married quickly. I recognized him as my one and only. He composed a special song for me when he proposed (he’s not even a composer). He sang the special song to me (he’s not even a singer). He played the piano while singing the special song to me (he’s not even a piano player). He was motivated to learn all of these things by love. He called the song, “Sandy.” My heart melted and I would forever be his. Ahhh, youth. Those were the days, exciting and free!
We stuck by each other’s side through thick and thin. Shared our heartaches, goals, and dreams. We grew together as one. He was my world and I was his. Endless challenges popped up, including kids. We said we would never leave each other. If we made it through all of this, NOTHING would EVER pull us apart. Our vows were unbreakable and our love was unshakable.
…UNTIL NOW.
We had stayed together for love, loyalty, and life. Then everything SHIFTED and it shifted HUGE. Things change, people grow, souls evolve. Over the last few years, we have been going in different directions and we struggled to hang on.
LOYALTY – The ego wasn’t going to let it crumble easily.
LOVE – We loved each other too much to let this masterpiece go. Just needed to work through it, find more solutions.
LIFE – We needed to live more life together, expand our experience. Ego was trying desperately to hold things together, but the Higher Self had other plans. We thought love was keeping us together, but really, LOVE WAS PULLING US APART.
What does all of this mean? Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning we give it. My perception of love and relationship used to be one of lack. I was looking for others to love me to fill a void within myself. My view has changed drastically. Through my new lenses, I see that splitting apart is the “Greatest Love Story of All.” It’s not the same story that began 33 years ago. That one was of romance, togetherness, and attachment. Our love story now is the one with no conditions, attachments, or obligations. The one where two people discover their truth and align with their highest vision regardless of the other. When two people no longer align in the higher vision of their truth together, it’s time to move on. Otherwise the relationship would be poisoned with lack, limitation, and resentment. We were designed this way. It’s our innate internal flow. The spiral of remembrance will teach us this.
Conscious uncoupling, that’s what this is. With an open heart and an open spirit, two people allow their hearts to move gently apart. They honor each other completely and allow the pure resonance of their intentions to align in Oneness. It can only be done with pure, genuine, unconditional love. There is awareness, and truth, and dignity. There need be no resentment or guilt. Sadness naturally arises as the ego grieves its masterpiece. Tears fall at the loss of identity. Tears are the authentic expression of the soul and are to be honored in a breakup; however, they are to be funneled through with full trust of moving forward. Two hearts break and one heart falls. Our hearts fall together in Oneness. That’s the beauty. We’ll always be connected, we’ll always be in Oneness, just with a new, independent energetic alignment. It takes a lot of courage, strength, and trust to understand and choose this path.
I realized the Greatest Love of all is really the greatest love for myself. I struggled to find love in my youth. I thought it was outside of myself, so I was forever searching… and hubby filled that void, for a long while. Now it is complete within myself. I have full unconditional love for myself, and I’m free to explore my journey in the most optimal way. This brings to mind the words to one of my favorite songs, “Greatest Love of All” by Whitney Houston. This is my beautiful tune…
“I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone’s shadows
If I fail, if I succeed, at least I’ll live as I believe
No matter what they take from me, they can’t take away my dignity
Because the greatest love of all is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all inside of me
The greatest love of all is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all”
What a heavy weight lifted! No attachments, no obligations to each other. No trying to hold things together or control the outcome. Let it be. There are no words to describe this form of freedom. It’s COMPLETE DELIVERANCE from bondage and burdens. I have never felt this way before EVER in this lifetime. I hope you can experience it, too, in whatever form it takes for you!
What is the lesson here? That the “Greatest Love” is unconditional; it is the love of ONESELF. If it’s truly unconditional, you can let someone go purely, exclusively, respectfully, so they can explore their journey apart from you. I no longer need him to fill a void, because there is no void. I unconditionally walk away. No strings attached. I am forever changed and I have expanded beyond my former self. I am so much more than this relationship and this persona. I am pure consciousness embodied as Sandy Vaught Anthony. As consciousness, I am aware of myself in physical form. I am free to be someone else. I am free to grow and expand beyond my wildest dreams. Perhaps the biggest misperception is that this is a loss. IT IS ACTUALLY A GAIN. I still have my beautiful memories. I am not judging my creation. My love is forever, and the memories with him are forever. I am immensely grateful for the rich lessons I have experienced. In fact, writing this blog is helping me with embracing and completing this cycle.
I am enough.
I’M THE ONE I’VE BEEN LOOKING FOR ALL ALONG. Time to move forward in full bloom. I am a beautiful rose twisting and twining out of the soil, allowing her blossoms to take full form. Artistry in motion and master of emotion. As the petals fall, they dance and swirl, and a new birth takes place. This reminds me of another one of my favorite songs called “The Rose” by Bette Midler. I performed a solo lyrical dance to this song years ago and it still has relevance for me today. This is exactly how I feel! Its timeless message activates the seeds of the higher heart. Feel into it.
“Some say love, it is a river, that drowns the tender reed
Some say love, it is a razor, that leaves your soul to bleed
Some say love, it is a hunger, an endless aching need
I say love, it is a flower, and you, its only seed
Its the heart afraid of breaking, that never learns to dance
Its the dream afraid of waking, that never takes the chance
It’s the one who won’t be taking, who cannot seem to give
And the soul afraid of dying, that never learns to live
When the night has been too lonely and the road has been too long
And you think that love is only for the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter, far beneath the bitter snows
Lies the seed, that with the sun’s love in the spring becomes the rose.”
I AM the rose.
Sandy Anthony
Trinity Energy Progression Facilitator/Practitioner
Learning Through Love
Throughout our lives we have been conditioned to believe that the only way learn our life lessons is through pain and suffering. Our belief that it has to hurt creates negative memories, which then become beliefs, all based on perceptions of the illusion. We believe this to the extent that to love and be loved, we must experience suffering and pain. What if we could learn through love?
Often we tend to experience everything that way, then unconsciously feel validated when reality reflects our theory. We externalize this in our culture by making drama glamorous entertainment that we enjoy. Individually and collectively we believe this is the only way… creating more hurt and pain, making those close to us suffer.
What if we believed and actually KNEW that we can learn our lessons through love and not suffering? How about the idea that… consequences can also be loving? Wow! Can you imagine and visualize it?
While we can acknowledge the pain and suffering that exists, we can also learn to change it. I have Trinity Energy Progression to thank for that! As I began my journey within Trinity Energy Progression, I started to embody my divinity. My heart began to open, and I began to perceive reality differently.
With new awareness, I questioned my old concepts and beliefs. In my spiritual practice, I used affirmations focused on creating my reality differently. Believing in the possibility of experiencing lessons though love, I began to experience life differently and underwent huge change. Though these concepts were at first, very far-fetched t me, I began to experience their reality more.
When I first accepted this knowledge, my manifestations in life where showing me something completely different. I was feeling all of the pain and suffering of ego. At the same time I began to clearly identify the duality of love vs. fear. When I could see and observe love, it was in such contrast to the fear I had been experiencing. My observations created an awareness that enabled me to acknowledge fear for what it is. Though I’m still processing all the changes I am going thorough, I realized that I had chosen to the pain I have allowed in my life, because I believed it had to be that way. Now I know and remember that it doesn’t have to be that way at all!
When life experiences and situations pushed me out of my comfort zone, I challenged myself to go within. Guided to flow with the changes, I explored, realized and accepted who I had become. Then I allowed myself to make the changes necessary to do and be different.
I started to allow myself to explore the opportunities and synchronistic experiences that guided me experience love, create peace and bliss, with an open heart. Needless to say, some moments feel like they’re a “taking each breath consciously” kind of experience, due to their intensity. These changes made me feel alive and have opened my heart. I know that my effort in the self-love journey has shifted things, and it’s really starting to manifest in ways that I had never expected.
When I found myself in those lowest, rock bottom moments, the Universe supported and encouraged me through experiences in miraculous ways, both positively and negatively. I realized that there is love in every lesson and the ego can lovingly show me the areas where I still need to look within. To those situations that I perceived as negative, I posed the question, “what is the lesson in unconditional love to self and others?” I saw where I could be more loving toward myself and others. I set the boundaries and the conscious awareness that would allow me to do so.
All of a sudden, I find myself in a position where I have started noticing how the epiphanies and realizations are coming more effortlessly and gracefully. These moments of insight and the love I manifest through others show me an abundance of love, forgiveness, and acceptance. This resonates with the self-love I feel, show myself, and believe that I AM and deserve.
If others are capable of showing it, don’t you feel called to love yourself the same way, so it can be reciprocated? Right? A challenge in itself, huh?
I find it helpful to identify that limiting voice within and question the source. Is it from love or pain? Then I choose to focus on the loving action to take for myself. This allows me to take responsibility for what is mine and allows others to do the same.
Learning lessons through love has been a conscious desire. I practice daily with intention. Self-care, love, dedication and self-celebration are key to practicing this new way of being.
In full vulnerability and trust, I actively decide to be open to the wholeness of experience, allowing the emotions, everything to be as it is. I accept the oneness in every moment, allowing myself to feel and observe it, to perceive all of it within. Opening to awareness, I see what limits and/or expands me to greatness and self-mastery through the love I can accept, to be, give and receive.
I know that I am worthy to be, exist in, feel, receive, give, share and experience the fullness and the greatness of Love as the Source of all.
Yashmin Wall
Trinity Energy Progression Facilitator/Practitioner
The Total Mind-Body-Spirit Connection
You may have heard the phrase, “we are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience”. When this first made sense to me, I began to experience a sense of disinterest about my life. I started to perceive things from just a spiritual perspective, so that I felt a bit detached from my body and perhaps even life around me. Eventually I learned to include the body in my spiritual practice. The title of this article, The Total Mind-Body-Spirit Connection, refers to the connection of each aspect in total balance.
As an energy healing practitioner, I receive intuitive guidance about the relevance and intelligence of the body. I learned to dialogue with people’s bodies and assist them in having conversations with their bodies to identify where their problems were being held. When I begin to work on a person, sensation in my body tells me exactly what part of the client’s body needs attention. Usually that information isn’t about something physical, but about an emotional or a past hurt that needs attention.
What I realized through my practice, is that I had neglected my own body. Inadvertently, through judgment and neglect, I created a perception of separation from my body. I basically thought that as a spiritual being, my body was just a skin that didn’t have much relevance to my spiritual journey.
Well, all that has changed, and I want to share some insights that I’ve gained about our bodies, to include them in our spiritual journeys:
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- The body has a divine intelligence system that we can access and communicate with.
- The body contains all the wounds, beliefs, pain and residual karmic energy that we have carried from this lifetimes and other lifetimes.
- The way we treat our bodies directly affects our vibration and therefore is not separate from the equation of coming into a place of self-love/ascension/unity.
- The more we align and connect with our bodies coming from a place of allowance and respect, the more effectively we can manifest.
- The body is an integral part of our spiritual journey, and it’s time we stop leaving our bodies behind.
One of the precepts we teach in Trinity Energy Progression is to dissolve all layers of separation, so we can connect into our divine consciousness. This helps us to exist from that place of love and unity. From that space, we create more easily because we’re not bogged down by limited thoughts, old beliefs and wounds we carry. This also involves dissolving the layers of separation with our bodies.
If we perceive the body as separate from our spiritual experience, we exclude our body as part of the journey and our divinity. The body shows us where we are limited by feelings of fear, unworthiness, guilt, shame, anger etc. Our awareness of emotions in the body actually assists us to connect with our denser energies. Then we can bring more easily bring in them into love and union.
We are all part of the whole spiritual experience, including our body and mind. When we can come into a place of acceptance of all of our parts, we can feel more whole, including the body, mind and spirit.
Jennifer Cunnings
Trinity Energy Progression Facilitator/Practitioner
The Mirrors of Reality
Mirrors as Standing Stones on the Canary Island Coast
In every challenging period of my life I have chosen to hunker down, check out and deal with things on my own. It was my belief that there really wasn’t anyone who really wanted to listen to what I was going through. Everyone else had their own struggles. Why would they want to listen to me when I was at my lowest? So I would watch TV to numb myself, isolate myself from all the people who cared about me, complain about how rough I had it and then make believe everything was okay.
Most of the time this would carry me over until the next challenging time, but I would make minimal movement towards really seeing/healing what was causing me so much suffering. It wasn’t until I started practicing Trinity that I realized that those challenging moments were ME showing ME what needed to shift so I could come to remembrance of Authenticity. However, I must admit, I hadn’t really committed to a consistent practice until recently.
I knew what the commitment was in theory but I was always drawn back to my usual way of doing things because it felt comfortable. Actually, taking responsibility and making the time to see what I needed to do for myself seemed like too much effort. Growing up, I was spoon fed how to be a victim and it felt SO GOOD. Blaming someone or something else felt awesome because I didn’t have to step up to the plate. I could just hide behind the hurt and the blame and throw stones from a safe distance.
But here’s the thing: The effort it takes to stay in those old patterns is so much more draining than the effort to take responsibility and shift into courage and acceptance! Yes, some of the things we have to look at are truly uncomfortable for us to acknowledge and witness and feel, but we have a choice in what to do.
All of these aspects of me that I have committed not to run away from are qualities that make me cringe. Pieces of me that I hadn’t wanted to acknowledge for such a long time. Right now I’m seeing the mirrors I have put up for myself everywhere. Everything in our reality can be a mirror for growth, if we choose to look at those pieces reflected back to us. Since we are ultimately ALL One, our reality reflects aspects of ourselves “in the mirror” to look at and grow from. My goodness, have I’ve been giving myself messages!
And now, I have decided to truly listen, be fully aware and bring those parts back to love and acceptance. This process has been so difficult as I’m sure it is for most of us. Every piece of unworthiness has come up for me. Every bit of lack. Every bit of “Not Enough”. Every bit of self-loathing. In every situation I have set up, there’s a reflection! There are moments when it feels like that’s all I am, these “less than” pieces. I think, “Will I ever fully remember my Authentic Divine Self? I’m so broken, what’s the use? How will I ever be everything I was created to be when I have so much to undo?”
In the past, I would have given up. I would have manifested an illness so I had the inarguable excuse to check out and hunker down. Chosen something to numb my feelings of unworthiness and fear, isolated myself because I would believe, “Who would love someone so broken and weak?” and hoped it would turn around. Starting to repeat the old patterns of “victim extraordinaire”… this time I knew I had to choose differently. This time, I would not give up on my commitment to wholeness! Even though changing my pattern felt unbearable at times, in choosing to honor me, I remembered the understanding which gave me the perspective to continue and not give up.
Yes, the aspects of lack and separation are reflections of me. Every one of those aspects that I keep becoming aware of are ME, AND so are the aspects of love, compassion, and wisdom, etc., that I witness in others. When I look at another and see courage, creativity, trust, wisdom, joy, unconditional love, passion, that’s ME too!
My only focus doesn’t have to be on the parts that have to be brought back to wholeness. In those moments of despair, one very important thing I can do is look to the vast messages about the DIVINE ME all around. I truly hadn’t seen it that way. When I’m experiencing feelings of separation and lack, if my perspective of someone I admire is that they are everything I am not, this just propels me further into the spiral of despair.
To do it differently, when I feel that fear, doubt, judgement, etc., is what I truly am, what I need to do is look at the mirrors reflecting the Authentic Me, ALL of it! I will not be able to deny the Truth. This will allow me to get past the illusion of separateness long enough for me to continue on the process of forgiveness and acceptance, until I can come back to Wholeness.
In those periods of fear and defeat, I will remind myself that these are just moments leading me to Truth. I will remember to see my true nature of Oneness reflected in others and in situations, just as I see the pieces that are reflecting separation. When I see something in another which I feel I lack, I will remind myself that it’s already within me, for we are all One. I will take courage from the qualities of Oneness I witness and continue allowing and accepting the pieces of separation without so much fear and struggle.
And when I feel the struggle is too much and I want to retreat to old beliefs and patterns, I will reach out to the beautiful soul tribe of which I am a part for support, wisdom, love, perspective, etc., until I feel those same qualities within me again. For it is in those moments that I have to remember I can draw strength from all the wonderful people that surround me. No more hiding who I am or isolation. No more procrastination. The commitment to Wholeness is the path I choose and there’s no way I’m going to make it all the way through if I continue to choose the patterns that no longer serve me. Choose differently. Seek a different perspective. Choose a different action. Think differently. Is this super uncomfortable? YES! But the alternative will not lead me back to ME. The old pattern shows me I am just waiting for me to come home.
Cathy Guido
Trinity Energy Progression Facilitator/Practitioner
Holiday Self-Care
As the Holidays race towards me, I am finding it harder to do my self-care. Which makes it harder to create the Holiday I want for me and my family. I have decided to focus my energy on the ideas and things that bring me joy and warm memories. That goes for traditions as well as decorations. In fact, I am broadly applying that to every object in my house!! I am also reminding myself, as often as necessary, that anyone’s dissatisfaction comes from their expectations or believed needs and have nothing to do with me!
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I am protecting my space as well, by continuing with my self care routines, even if they get shortened. I need to remind myself that simple things like brushing my teeth, washing my face and showering ARE self care! Another version of self care is watching what I say to myself. I have replaced “Man, I have way too much to do!” With “I have more than enough time to accomplish everything I desire.” It really shifts how my day plays out. I also find that if I think of the things I do for myself, like meals, relaxation time, and sleeping, with the same intent I would have if I were caring for a child or friend, it comes from a much more meaningful place and the results are much more powerful. A very simple self-care example is muting commercials while you watch TV. What a difference this makes! I also make sure I surround myself with things that bring me joy in my sleeping space. For me it is oils in my diffuser that relax me, my favorite Lemurian crystal on my nightstand and that I have an extra blanket handy if I need it during the night. My meal preparation and planning has also been revamped to reflect the notion of joy and warm memories. I don’t make things just because my family always has. I realize that is craziness. I also ask for help when things get busy. I realize that is a way to make more joy and warm memories and that it isn’t a sign of weakness!
All and all I have a much better outlook going in to these Holiday than ever before. I am creating them differently and completely based in joy and love for everyone including myself!!
Sarah Avignone
Trinity Energy Progression Instructor/Practitioner
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